Emotional Intelligence | Author

What do you think is the greatest gift of life? What super power do you want that could solve all your problems? Many people answer is, “I want a high I.Q” “A high I.Q will bring me good grades” “Make me standout” “Give me a good job and a good salary”. After years of research on human intelligence. We thought that the intelligence of a person is what describes how successful he/she will be in his/her life. We thought that the intelligence of a person decides how well he/she will live his/her life. All intelligent people on this planet have been successful but not because of their I.Q. But because of their E.Q, Emotional Quotient. This book talks about E.Q why it’s important to understand and be aware of emotions. We all want to be successful and live a lavish life. We want a good brain that can memorize answers. We all want a superhuman brain, but what about improving your emotional quotient. In every successful individual emotional quotient plays a big role. Every successful man has become successful with not only an idea but because of his/her attitude. He lost many times, got criticized, failed, and then he trained himself to be resilient and became successful. Ask any successful businessman, “how much has your I.Q contributed to your success”. They will say, “very less” because half of the game is about managing emotions. We are humans we are lead my emotions. Our emotions let us follow something. Our emotions let us buy something. Our emotions even have the power to start a war or bring a revolution. But our brains are there for generating ideas and making logical decisions. The society puts a lot of effort into I.Q. But it has forgotten that E.Q is the other important factor that plays a major role. Our emotions bring us food, money; we work because we don’t want to be starving and homeless and sit in somewhere to beg. Those who have managed their emotions, those who don’t get stressed out. Those who are always calm and even after facing a huge loss they take care of their emotions and show up next time. Only they become successful and live a peaceful life. Only I.Q won’t give you a peaceful life. There are many intelligent people in this world, they pass school, get degrees, get Ph.D.’s, have a nice career, but they don’t get successful. Because they don’t know how to manage their emotions. They know how to manage their minds, handle big data, handle huge tasks that command above average intelligence. But they don’t know how to manage those sad feelings that keep coming out of nowhere. They don’t know how to manage anxiety. They don’t know how to manage stress. Next time whenever you think that you don’t have that great brain while handling a task. Take a deep breath, meditate, relax and try to do it again. Try to understand other’s emotions and feel them, be empathetic. Because our ideas or brains don’t govern us, our emotions do. After I read this book I made a goal to meditate daily for 10 minutes. I have been a lot peaceful. Also reading this book after “The Power Of Now” made it easy to manage my emotions. I was always staying present. I didn’t allow any disturbing thought to creep inside my head. Read this book as it is important to understand emotions. Reading this book will encourage you to think from other people’s perspective. It will make you more patient and less angry.

“In a very real sense, we have two minds, one that thinks and one that feels”
― Daniel Goleman, Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ

“Emotional self-control — delaying gratification and stifling impulsiveness- underlies accomplishment of every sort”
― Daniel Goleman, Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ

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