The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A F*ck | Author

“The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A F*ck” by Mark Manson is a book that everybody is reading nowadays. They liked the rant inside the book that is giving them a new perspective. This book is good and it is also a must read, but, it only got sold because of the title of the book. In every page, there is “F*ck” that loses the context of the book. “Not giving a f*ck” means to get disconnected from everything that shouldn’t bother you. The author talked about this well enough. There are many things that bother us, many things that stress us out and we don’t live the life we want. The art of not giving a let me say, damn! Is quite simple, disconnect. Disconnect from people who are toxic. Disconnect from things that distract you from your goals, not give a, damn! About people who you loved, cared a few years ago, they left you, okay, now don’t give a damn about them. Don’t give a damn about that politician who spreads hate speeches. Your work is looking after your goals and achieving them. This book should have got titled, “The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A Damn!” but for marketing purposes, they went with a title like this. This book explores other interesting stuff. Like the niche of self-help that grew in the 90s and everything in those books was the same. Those books taught us to think highly of ourselves to achieve a goal or a dream. After reading what kind of books even if a person hasn’t achieved anything in life, he gets a with a delusional image of himself. I also had problems with books like this so I connected with this topic. Then the author talks about how pain makes us grow. Easy wins don’t matter, a goal or a dream that gives us a lot of pain, hurdles, anxiety, that matter, because that lets us grow into a good human being. This book taught me to always accept pain, no matter what, don’t reject or neglect it. You will learn something from it. There were a few things that pained me. Then I got this new perspective, and I look back, at things that pained me, I am glad that these things happened. I learned a lesson. Pain makes us grow. Accept our life and don’t be a delusional egoistic freak, who hasn’t achieved anything in life. The other good stuff I liked was taking full responsibility for your life. This started with a story of a failed doctor, who hasn’t done anything in his life. He was always a failure, but he decided to take full responsibility for his life and he transformed. I had always taken full responsibility, but I often deal with acceptance. I have problems accepting defeat. Now, I tell myself that I am responsible for whatever happens in my life, and I have to accept and work towards it. This book won’t change your life. This book doesn’t discuss things in a deeper context; also this is not an interesting book to read. But once you read it, you will be able to change your attitude about some issues.

“Everything worthwhile in life is won through surmounting the associated negative experience. Any attempt to escape the negative, to avoid it or quash it or silence it, only backfires. The avoidance of suffering is a form of suffering. The avoidance of struggle is a struggle. The denial of failure is a failure. Hiding what is shameful is itself a form of shame.
Pain is an inextricable thread in the fabric of life, and to tear it out is not only impossible, but destructive: attempting to tear it out unravels everything else with it. To try to avoid pain is to give too many fucks about pain. In contrast, if you’re able to not give a fuck about the pain, you become unstoppable.”
Mark Manson, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck

“The desire for more positive experience is itself a negative experience. And, paradoxically, the acceptance of one’s negative experience is itself a positive experience.”
Mark Manson, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck

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I'm A.J Shaikh, a moron and a writer. I like writing about Business, Relationships, Men, Romance, Sex & Dating.

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A.J SHAIKH

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I'm A.J Shaikh, a moron and a writer. I like writing about Business, Relationships, Men, Romance, Sex & Dating.

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